More about Illicit Dating...
When we talk about illicit and dating it would be generally accepted that we are talking about adultery, on the part of one of the participants at least. Although being unfaithful to a partner who you are not married to (this is incidentally still thought of as illicit dating) can be equally as hurtful, the term adultery is reserved for a partner who is married. But is adultery always a bad thing? It can be argued that it puts things into perspective for the people involved. It might well help them to look more objectively at their relationships or marriages, like someone on the outside looking in. It could even help them resolve issues within their relationship leading to a stronger and better relationship in the future. It is well known that relationships that do survive one or both partners taking part in illicit dating, having an affair, can be stronger than they were before the affairs. It can take an affair by one or both partners in a marriage to realize how much they love each other, how much there is to lose. It is rare for a relationship to be free of problems and issues.
People can even be misled into thinking they have lost the feelings they had for their partner as they get buried under the more mundane things in life – work, bringing up children, taking care of the housework, maintaining the house, keeping all the bills paid and the thousand and one issues that come with modern living.
Having an affair – illicit dating
– can free your mind from these things for a while, give you some clear space to think things over. I could be that your marriage is indeed dead, in which case is it right to carry on with it? Having an affair can open your eyes to this. Or it could, as we have said, go the opposite way and reaffirm your feelings for your partner, making your marriage, and your bond stronger than ever.
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